Hi- I am Joy
Hi, I'm Joy and like my name I am generally happy and positive. I was diagnosed by accident with very early stage Ovarian Cancer in June 2016. During the surgery it was found that the cancer had actually spread to the fallopian tube but not beyond. After surgery, I completed a course of chemotherapy to "mop up" any malignant cells that may be lurking and it was with confidence I looked forward to the future. 7 months later I was rediagnosed with Metastatic Cancer and entered into Chemotherapy again. After my initial tears and a few temper tantrums I decided that I wasn't helping myself by focusing on the what if or thinking about all the things (particularly relating to my Grandchildren) that I would miss. So here are a few things I have found that have helped me:
1) If my cancer had not been found in what was thought to be a healthy ovary at such an early stage my outcome would not have been as positive. I feel blessed to have had extended time with my family.
2) I no longer work due to fatigue from chemo etc but find I am busier than ever. It might take me 3 times as long to do something but I feel great when I have managed a task.
3) Although there are some confronting discussions that have had to be had, I don't dwell on the future too much as I find worrying about the future robs me of pleasure in the present. Equally I am not stressing about things I cannot change from the past.
4) I am not perfect -far from it and every now and again I have a pyjama day but mostly I try to make sure that each day I have at least one thing that gives me a reason to I get out of bed, get dressed and face the world. It is too easy to give into the negative path or thoughts can take us. I also put news of cancer breakthoughs etc in prominent places to remind me that I just need to stay healthy and contain the tumours until the breakthrough in Ovarian Cancer gives me another positive option.
So that's a little about me, I hope I haven't waffled too much